To me: How do you make him do it?? What kind of bribery do you use? Did you strike some sort of bargain??
To The Hubster: How did She manage to make you do it?? Did She bribe you? You must hate your life.
These are questions and comments we get every time we dress in costume (which, by the way, is more often than any other adults - and MAYBE even kids - I’ve ever known).
It could be a theme night. We’ve done French (berets and tiny moustaches are just fun), Winter Wonderland (we were the Snow King & Queen, of course), UK (that was fun because I got to see Adrian in a kilt – hubba, hubba), or even Japanese (because Geisha makeup is a MUST). It could be the ever-regular-reason, Halloween. We’ve been Peace & Quiet, Gomez and Morticia Addams, Sick & Tired, and Mummy & Deaddy. It could be for a party. We’ve been mega-trends from every era from the 20s to the 90s, and literally everything in between. We’ve been Wonder Woman and Captain America (both circa 1940s and circa 1980s), and we’ve been Janis Joplin and Jimmy Hendrix. We’ve even been Thomas Jefferson and his wife, Martha. I’m telling you: the list goes on and ON.
Just a sidebar: He especially loves keeping the costume boxes (yes, PLURAL) very organized. He recently catalogued our wigs. Yep. Now we have a wig library.
I’m telling you, WE COSTUME UP. But therein lay the key word: “we”. I’m never alone in it. Adrian suits up no matter what, and never complains and never declines.
The Hubster knows life is fleeting and very short. He knows we are partners. He knows it is not threatening to his manhood, but rather a fun way to be present and in-the-moment. And he knows me. And he loves life. And he loves life with me. And he loves me.
This particular costume (yes, that’s him in the picture), I simply said, “Turkey Costume”. And he donned it as though he were a proud peacock instead of a turkey. He danced around with kids, and he pretended to peck at people’s heads. And, as most rock-star turkeys do, he wore sunglasses and drank trendy coffee.
I’m not saying costumes are for everyone. But I am saying all the things that make The Hubster jive with me and with life ARE.
As Thanksgiving approaches, I want to be sure you know life is fleeting and very short. I want to make sure you are present and in-the-moment. Do you love life? Even when it is not going perfectly? PS - it never will (go perfectly, that it is). If you don't already, learn to love it and give thanks for it. Embrace the costume moments. And I promise you – it WILL jive.